Motherhood looks different for everyone but there are certain aspects we all share. It is my humble opinion that motherhood is built around every day moments that show the depth of our commitment to caring and connecting with children. It may show up in the way we carefully prepare food, a lullaby, an evening dance …
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If you’ve been following along in our self care series we’ve discussed the overall concept of self care, barriers to permission and mom guilt. Today we are tackling kindness and ways to foster it for yourself. Full disclosure here, I have perfectionist traits. Most healthcare providers do. Perfectionism can be both helpful and problematic. For …
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